Let's start from the beginning
Don't use the dating box to go on a date with me. Man up and ask me yourself!
Don't call me on Friday afternoon and expect me to open my schedule for that weekend. When that happens I have to say no then I'm suddenly the bad guy who made an 'excuse' to get out of going.
DO tell the girl what you're planning. Even if it is the day of it's still appreciated. The worst is not knowing whether or not you're going to eat. When this girl is hungry she is no fun. A couple weeks back I had no idea what the plan was for a date that started at 7 so I ate dinner before. I hopped in the car and this conversation followed:
Homeboy: Are you hungry?
(I could have handled this situation more politely but I was bugged already)
Me: umm.. I mean kind of. I ate a little while back, but I love food so... sure!
Homeboy: Well I'm starving. I was thinking we could go eat and then go bowling or laser tagging or something.
Me: Oh. okay that sounds fun.
Homeboy: So... what do you want to do?
DO have the date planned before you pick me up. I'm game for almost anything but HAVE A PLAN. You could even get my opinion before and I'd be totes okay with that. Don't wait until we're sitting in the car though.
WEEKDAY DATES ARE THE BEST THING EVER. (I'm talking the first date here.) The marathon date is highly unlikely and then I can use my weekend to be with my friends and do whatever I please.
If I was in charge of every date I went on I would never plan on dinner/lunch/breakfast. First, you have to look at price before you look at the actual food options. Second, I hate eating in front of other people. Third, you have to deal with the whole awkward silence/ you take a bite then i'll take a bite/ let's chew and smile at each other because we screwed up the pattern and now neither of us can talk.
Ice cream and froyo? Totally okay.
Some guys should consider turning down the music in the car. It's okay to have something quiet on in the background, but we shouldn't be trying to talk over it. I went on a few dates with one guy, the first two or so the radio was completely off. I appreciated it soooo much! After those he had something on in the background but it wasn't distracting. It was perfect.
Do be a gentleman.
Don't be cocky.
I'm going to ask random questions, the old 'whats your major?' question gets old sup dup quick. Play along with me! ITS FUN. Don't be thrown off when I ask who your disney crush is. I'd rather know that then find out you're just another guy trying to figure out what to major in. (not that there is anything wrong with that)
Please don't try to hold my hand on the first date. Also, let's not watch a movie either.. I'm not your next cuddle buddy. Sorry.
Don't text. Hide yo phone.
This is something I greatly appreciate... other girls don't seem to care but I definitely notice when a guy dresses up a little more for a date.. something other than his everyday jeans and t-shirt.
Ahhh the doorstep scene. gotta love it right? not. I don't expect a boy to slowly roll past my house while I jump out though... so it's something that has to be done. I've experimented with my back door, my side door, my front door and the garage door. Nothing helps the awkwardness (especially when you lock yourself out and can't remember the code. I promise I'm not lingering.) Just make it a simple I had a nice time *hug* goodbye. And try not to use the 'we should do it again' phrase. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO SAY NO.
If I text you first after the date = good sign.
Try not to spend money. You've probably heard it before but the funnest dates i've been on is when the guy barely spends a dime.
NEWS FLASH: girls like a chase just as much as the boys do. trust me.
Awkward silences happen on dates. Don't try and talk so much that they don't happen... I'd like to get a word in too.
That's all I will rant about today. More will come I'm sure.
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